TOP TIPS FOR CHALLENGING TIMES

Developing self-confidence in your children
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Demonstrate unconditional love.
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Praise them for effort as well as results. Specific, immediate and ideally public.
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Teach them to set and achieve realistic goals.
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Let them try challenging new experiences.
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Encourage them to find and follow their passion(s).
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Encourage them to play sport.
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Get them into martial arts.
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Create an ‘achievement wall’ record.
Helping your kids start school feeling more confident
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Talk about the first day in positive terms.
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Describe what will happen on the first day.
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Introduce your child to other kids in the class.
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Visit the school in advance. Play with your child in the playground.
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Read your child books about starting school such as ‘The Berenstain Bears Go to School’.
Selling with Confidence
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Don’t sell anything you don’t believe in.
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Know your product
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Practice, practice, practice your sales pitch.
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Prepare your questions well in advance.
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Think of selling as a game.
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When selling over the phone, stand up.
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Know your response to every possible objection
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Deepen your voice and slow your speech. You’ll sound more confident.
Negotiating with Confidence
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Plan and prepare.
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Think of every negotiation as a game.
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ABN. Always be negotiating. When you make a habit of negotiating, it becomes second nature.
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Be aware of the personality types you’ll be negotiating with. It will help you prepare mentally and emotionally.
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Remember what Roger Dawson said, ‘You will never make money faster than when you are negotiating’. It helps with emotional control.
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Don’t go it alone. If you are going to negotiate with more than one person, don’t be outnumbered.
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Your place, not theirs. You’ll feel more comfortable negotiating in a familiar environment.
Presenting with confidence and charisma
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Prepare well. Know your audience.
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Practice, practice, practice. And practice. Join Toastmasters.
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Use only brief notes.
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Use the Squeeze.
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Be prepared for any questions.
Leaving your day job with confidence
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Set clear goals and stick with them.
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Create a rough five-year plan, and a detailed first year plan.
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Create a record of your achievements. Look at it whenever self-doubt rears its ugly head.
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Make daily positive affirmations.
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Form a support group of other self-employed people. Meet regularly.
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Meditate regularly.
Re-entering the workforce with confidence
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Set clear goals to work on every day. And complete them. The self-discipline required alone will boost your confidence.
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Create your dream employer list.
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Work on your biggest weakness.
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Make daily positive affirmations. First and last thing in the day.
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Read or listen to positive, motivational material daily.
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Feel the fear, do it anyway, and reward yourself for all achievements.
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Prepare for interviews by writing out answers to the two main types of questions using the CAR (Context, action, result )/ STAR formula. (Situation, tactics, action, result)
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Visualise the interview going well.
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Exercise regularly.
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Feel good about the way you look. You’ll not only feel more confident, you’ll be treated with respect by others.
Job hunt with confidence
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Create your dream employer list.
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Set clear goals to work on every day.
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Make daily positive affirmations. First and last thing in the day.
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Read or listen to positive, motivational material daily.
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Use informational interviewing.
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Feel the fear, do it anyway, and reward yourself for all achievements.
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Prepare for interviews by writing out answers to the two main types of questions using the CAR/STAR formula.
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Visualise the interview going well.
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Exercise regularly.
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Feel good about the way you look. You’ll not only feel more confident, you’ll be treated with respect by others.
Dating again…with confidence
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Make daily positive affirmations.
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Try meditating.
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Remember dating is a numbers game, so not every date has to be perfect.
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Do what it takes to feel good about the way you look.
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Maintain confident body language.
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If you’re struggling with your online profile, enlist the help of a good friend.
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If you meet someone you find attractive, just ask them out for a coffee. The more you do this, the less nervous you will be. And remember, rejection won’t hurt you. Not really.